Humans are social beings by nature, and it is this condition that has allowed us to survive and evolve. Relationships are a fundamental need and that is why, when we do it with other people in a healthy way, it is a starting point for full development. We must learn to build authentic and lasting connections over time. “We often think that our health is just the absence of physical illnesses, but on the contrary, it goes beyond that, and relies on complex interactions between biological, psychological and social factors, “said Dr. Estefanía Peltzer told AIM, a specialist in General and Family Medicine.
Do we always rely on relationships with others?
Humans are such social beings that isolation has the same number of deaths as smoking, hypertension, dyslipidemia and obesity.
According to the WHO definition, health is “a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not just the absence of disease or disease.” This definition expresses the interconnection between social support, interpersonal relationships, general health and well-being.
Questions with answers
-But, doctor, the difficulty in interpersonal relationships, can they make me sick? -Numerous investigations confirm the relationship between social support and development, or recovery from physical illnesses. For example, the lack of effective social support and interpersonal connections has been linked to heart disease, various types of cancer, epilepsy, inflammatory bowel disease and arthritis, as well as attachment to others linked to increased death rates. in the elderly.
Other related studies have shown that couples who are more negative and hostile when discussing marital problems experience an increase in negative immune change for up to 24 hours after their discussion.
How do we identify socially?
Every relationship, family, couple, work or social has its own characteristics. Social relationships are those involving family and friends, which are based on the exchange and building of experiences and are, in fact, very important, because rejection and isolation damage the quality of life, producing illnesses such as depression, vices, anxiety and low self-esteem.
Stressful partner interactions lead to increased cardiovascular reactivity, which in turn increases the risk of coronary heart disease and premature death. Conversely, good interpersonal relationships avoid stress (and with that are multiple diseases such as hypertension (HT), reduce the perception of pain and promote healthy habits.
Relationships at work
At present, labor relations are one of the leading causes of health problems. The reasons may be varied, but they may be due to a lack of or poor communication between people, which damages the working environment. Causes include harassment, threats, shouting, among other situations and their health consequences are stress, fatigue, anxiety, depression. The solution to these difficulties is to have good communication.
Two is always better
Building bonds is one of the treasures of life and your learning, a legacy. When relationships are unstable in a couple, it is quickly ascertained how the situation affects health, causing stress, insomnia, behavior change, low self-esteem, or alcohol consumption, among other factors. On the other hand, those relationships based on honesty, tolerance and respect are the ones that drive us to have self-confidence, happiness, high self-esteem and to be able to achieve our goals.
Speaking of interpersonal relationships we cannot fail to mention toxic people. They are the ones who always complain about everything, see everything in a negative way, take on the role of victims, talk only about their problems, don’t take their responsibilities, lie and hide, blame others for their misdeeds , do nothing to move on, they feel jealousy, jealousy and pride, they resist change and are manipulative.
Have you ever been in front of a “toxic” person?
Neurosciences say that “toxic” people exist and are embedded in those that disturb the welfare of others and vampire their fellow man. And they commit to irrigating that toxicity to chemical failures. “Their behavior translates into pathologies, and coexisting with them is almost impossible, as they constantly point out what we are doing wrong or can’t do. The examples are clear: the person who professes visual hatred and rejoices humiliates the other, the one who overwhelms his fellow man, the one who attempts to manipulate lies, the one who attacks and devalues the other to feel good, the one who harms. with the intention and never to offer a fix, the one that makes them uncomfortable with their attitudes, the one who is jealous of everything that is foreign and the one that confronts future problems with their solutions closer. If you have someone like that close, better escape quickly.
There are also the complainant, the jealous, the abusive, the blaming, the authoritative boss, the victim, the ordinary, the joker, the spiky bully, the liar, the drunkard, the fanatic, the genocide, the rival, the maniac o control, the accuser, the violent and the informed all.
It’s best to stop …
The most important thing we have to do to “detox” these people is to communicate effectively, facing what worries us about the other and the mistakes we ourselves can make.
Keep a sense of humor. Relaxing tensions and having fun allows you to react to the “intoxicated” person and gain the benefit of laughter. Remember that laugh therapy provides many benefits, both direct and indirect.
You have to try to turn anger into kindness, however difficult it may seem, as this is the best response for many who go from being pushed through life. The reasons for this way of behaving are, in fact, insecurity and low self-esteem. Another way to “detox” is to let go of any emotion about the “intoxicated” person.
The advice is to eliminate people who have these features of our lives, not worry about them or what is happening to them, and visualize leaving them behind.
If the conflict continues, that can indicate that the “intoxicated” person is yourself, not others. That doesn’t change many things, because the result is very similar: persistent discomfort and difficulties in connecting.
Interpersonal Relationships and Covid-19
The Covid-19 pandemic brought several changes in interpersonal relationships. Prevention measures to avoid infection have changed customs and practices in societies around the world, many of them traditional thousands of years ago. Social activity is intrinsic to the human being, and extremely important for a healthy life.
Before the pandemic, all family members had individual places, such as school, sports, work, free time with friends or outside the home.
Many times, the hours of work and activities made the moment of meeting the family very short, but now the anguish has changed this attitude, which is why many hours are spent with ‘ the family group or partner.
The other side of the coin is those people who live alone, who are isolated, unable to connect physically and emotionally.
Restriction has forced us to distance ourselves from family, loved ones and friends, and no longer have physical contact with them, what this means. As we mentioned earlier, social relationships are essential for human beings, so much so that we can become ill without them.
We had to learn to spend more time together and live as a family, a fact we hadn’t used to on many occasions. Or, to be alone and isolated.
To this circumstance are added the homework tasks, and the children’s school tasks, which require long hours and dedication on the part of parents.
Relationships with couples or parents with children were also affected, for better or for worse. What used to produce a small short circuit, because of the situation, could turn into serious complexity.
To this already damaging context is added the state of hyperstres, fear and uncertainty, as a result of home situations or problems of a labor, economic and social nature. As if all that was not enough, boredom, longing, desperation to get out, actions that can lead us to go through different emotions, and lead to friction and discussions.
What to do?
Faced with this reality, we must follow a series of suggestions and strategies, to draw the positive side of the situation. Speaking in detail, it is important that each family member has individual activities in the home, as well as coordinating other tasks that involve the whole family. You are advised to use technologies and social networks reasonably, to contact our loved ones and friends, but without abusing their use, much less, to overload ourselves with bad news. It is also key to have controlled schedules for all activities, whether work or school, and also for leisure and rest. Let’s practice what fills us with energy and good health, such as healthy eating, physical activity, meditation, yoga, gardening, the garden, and everything we like.